Feeling nervous about following the proper etiquette that goes into wedding planning? There’s a huge learning curve when it comes to planning a wedding, and having some practical tips mapped out for you can help. Here are five things you need to have on your checklist to ensure you stay clear within the bounds of proper etiquette.
1. Create a Wedding Registry
For starters, set up an online wedding registry that allows your guests to access it easily when they receive your invitation. For example, stamp a registry QR code on the back of the invitation card or on its card, which guests can scan on their mobile device to pull up your wedding registry.
2. Write Out Your Wedding Invitations
When sending out wedding invitations to guests whom you want to show up on your wedding day, make sure it’s not a cookie-cutter version that everyone else will receive. Instead, write a personalized message — even if it’s typed — that shows the invitee you thought of them as you wrote their invitation. The text doesn’t need to be very long.
However, it should include something memorable about you that the guest can directly relate to, such as “remember when I said I would marry her?” or something along those lines. This will make guests feel more valued and help ensure their attendance.
3. Send Your Wedding Invitations
In staying with tradition, make it a point to send out your wedding invitations six to eight weeks before the actual wedding date. RSVPs should be due back four weeks before your wedding, giving your guests two weeks to a month to RSVP after being invited.
Now, sending out or emailing guests save the date cards isn’t required, but they can be helpful for guests. You can send out a save the date card more than eight weeks out from the wedding, as soon as you have a date set. It could be a photo of you and your spouse-to-be for the guest to keep as a reminder of your pending nuptials.
4. Write Thank You Notes
Like save the date cards, thank you cards can feature photos of the bride and groom for guests to keep as a memento from the event. It’s proper etiquette to write a personalized thank you note, thanking the guest for coming to the wedding and for the gift you received from them.
Guests who gave speeches, helped things run smoothly at the wedding, or contributed to tailoring the bride’s wedding gown, for example, should receive special mention of it in their thank you card. Express gratitude and appreciation for each guest’s attendance and give them at least one great photo from the wedding. Don’t forget to include guests who gave gifts at your engagement party or bridal shower.
5. Send Out Your Thank You Cards
Send out your thank you cards to guests within two weeks after the wedding date. If some guests gave you gifts before the wedding or sent a gift and couldn’t make it altogether, you can send them thank you cards earlier.
Must-Know Wedding Etiquette Rules
Weddings today are generally less formal than they used to be and no longer conform as much to traditional rules. When it comes to invitations and thank you cards for wedding guests, however, proper etiquette is thought of as a labor of love and needs to be done right. If you follow these five steps, you’ll be able to navigate through the proper etiquette of wedding invitations and thank you cards easily.