We know that a relationship takes a lot of work. Even though your romances can feel hopeless at times, sometimes all it takes is a little bit of effort to revitalize your relationship and help your love feel fresh and new again.
We’ve created a list of easy steps you can do today to improve your relationship and help you get back on the track to success. Before you get into any of these steps, however, it’s best to keep one thing in mind: It’s probably not as bad as you think.
Because relationships are so important to us, issues get inflated into much bigger problems than they actually are. It’s always best to keep things in perspective. Ask yourself if your relationship is really as bad as it seems, or whether there are just a few things missing.
Check out this list, and you can make your relationship a wonderful part of your life once again.
Make An Effort
The first step is also the simplest. Making an effort might sound like the obvious thing to do, but you’d be surprised at how many couples fail at this – especially after years of being together.
There’s also the tendency to point the finger in a relationship. For example, you might think that you don’t need to make an effort because you’re not the one who needs to change.
While that might be true, you can lead by example by trying. When your partner sees that you’re striving to improve the relationship, they’ll soon follow suit.
Sometimes, this is as easy as dressing nicely for your partner instead of wearing the same old sweatpants and hoodie. Show them that you want to impress them. Surprise them! Work out, and show that you’re still doing your best to keep your dream guy or gal around.
Give Each Other Massages
Something happens on a deep, instinctual level when we give each other massages. We’re essentially “grooming” each other with this type of physical touching. No matter how much we’ve been fighting, massages help us relax. We might have put up walls between each other, but this gentle touching can help break down tension and open us up to really feeling each other’s presence once again.
You don’t need to be a skilled massage therapist to pull this off. Most people are naturally pretty good at giving massages. All you need to do is listen to your partner – they’ll tell you when you’re hitting that “sweet spot.”
Go On Vacation Together
A change of scenery can get you two out of that “rut” with surprising efficiency. Going on vacation is a bit like going on an adventure together – you need to trust each other and work as a team, even during the most laid-back trips.
And make no mistake, you don’t need to spend thousands of dollars to go on a vacation together. You could go camping if the weather is decent, and this can be much more romantic than you might realize.
Alternatively, you could book a cottage in a nearby rural area where things are a little quieter and more romantic. Air BnB has plenty of romantic options near you, so check them out.
Do A Class Together
Booking a class together is a great way to create strong bonds, laugh, and learn something new together. Cooking classes might be the most obvious option, but there are also tons of other options out there.
Why not learn to paint together? Or how about a candle-making class? The options are endless, but the end result is the same – you’ll get to work with your partner to create something that you can both enjoy. Sometimes, this is all you need to realize how much you mean to each other.
Take Space When It’s Needed
Although many of the options we’ve listed so far are geared towards bringing you two together, a completely different approach may also be beneficial at times. Sometimes, people just need their space.
This is especially true if there are one or more introverts involved. Allowing each other to have some space will enable you to recharge, rethink things, take a deep breath, and approach the relationship once again with renewed vigor.
We’re not talking about “taking a break” or exiling yourself from each other. You can give each other space simply by reading alone for a few hours. Take it upon yourself to go for a hike in the woods by yourself if you think you need that! And don’t stand in the way of your partner if they want to do something similar.
Listen To Each Other
We’ve heard it a million times by now, but it’s true. Listening really is essential in a relationship, and you need to ask yourself if you’re genuinely listening to your partner if you feel the relationship needs a little work.
In many cases, those who think they’re great listeners actually do most of the talking themselves, so do yourself a favor and take a hard, long look at yourself. Taking the time to actively listen to each other is the cornerstone of good communication – the key to any successful relationship.
Bring Friends Into The Mix
Just because you’re in a relationship together, doesn’t mean you need to isolate yourself from all other human contacts. In fact, doing so can be pretty harmful, as friends can be just as important as your closest loved ones. Friends give us a chance to let loose and use different social muscles, and these types of social interactions are very valuable to our mental health.
You don’t have to leave your partner at home to hang out with friends, either. Hang out together in a group of people, and you can both enjoy each other’s company without the “directness” of being alone together.
Sometimes, this can really breathe new life into a relationship.
If all else fails, it might be time to schedule a “date night.” Although it might seem a little tacky, making sure you two go on a date every single week can help keep the wheels of your relationship turning.
There are many possible date ideas that can be lots of fun, going to the movies, seeing a comedy show, a live musical performance… the list goes on. Can’t decide? Take a chance and spin the Date Night Decider wheel for the best date ideas in your area.
Just make sure you’re dating regularly, and your relationship is bound to improve to some degree.