Have you ever watched a television program called “Bridezilla?” It is a show that depicts brides going through one of the most stressful times of their lives – wedding planning. From choosing a wedding dress to picking out a caterer, to registering for gifts, brides face very difficult decisions and are under immense societal pressure in an effort to make things perfect for their special day. Becoming a “bridezilla” is common and happens when the stress and anxiety are too much to handle and the future bride starts to act out in ways that affect relationships with her friends, family, and future spouse, which can be a sign of mental health issues such as generalized anxiety disorder and major depression disorder.
Maybe you said the wrong thing to your fiancé in a heated argument. You can’t sleep because of the continuous worry about the possibility, and in your mind, “likelihood,” that something will go wrong. This worry and lack of sleep cause a lack of motivation and maybe you start to skip work days at your job, and in turn, you feel bad about yourself. You may overthink things and get cold feet about getting married. You might have panic attacks, which is a symptom of a mental health condition, which, if self-care does not work, requires the help of a therapist. Do not let these issues ruin what is supposed to be the best day of your life. Do not mask these feelings with a fake smile and rose-colored glasses. When the contrast between the goodness and love that you are supposed to feel from getting married, and the actual feelings of dread and doubt is so immense, that is when people trained to help people in these situations can guide you through the healing process. Remember that you are not alone and can get through this with the proper professional help.
Before seeking out a therapist, it is important to self-evaluate your mental health to find out how healthy or unhealthy your situation is. You can do this by answering a few questions. Do you feel anxious nearly everyday, ruminate, stay up late and do not sleep well? Are you restless all the time, quick to become irritable, and fearful about the future? If you answered yes to these questions, you may have generalized anxiety disorder. Are you frequently disinterested in doing things that you used to enjoy and have trouble focusing? Do you experience a lack of hope often? If so, you may have major depression.
There are some things you can do at home to manage disorders that arise due to wedding planning stress. By doing simple things like making lists to help keep track of tasks for the wedding, activities like shopping, choosing who to invite, and sending out invitations become easier and more manageable when you put them on paper and cross them off your agenda. Other helpful and therapeutic activities include meditation, increasing rest and sleep, exercising, eating healthy, and communicating better with friends and family. If these things do not work, then you may benefit from finding a therapist that you have a rapport with. It is the first step towards managing your mental health conditions. BetterHelp can assist you in finding the right one. It is critical to read the therapist’s website and client reviews to assess whether he or she is right for you. A therapist can serve as an unbiased party that will listen to your problems and talks through them with you. Counselors and psychotherapists can help you deal with problems and feelings that arise from planning a wedding, which may result in physical reactions. Through goal setting, therapists add a facet of accountability to your life, which helps facilitate change.